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that's a fear that creeps into everyone's head, i know that it does... but it's just such a scary thought. like, you could become abusive, impulsive, hurtful, and push away everyone. and for me, pushing away people is already pretty easy, or so it seems. then the depression of being alone would fuel the drinking. dang.
some people live in broken households that fuel it... having separated parents would be really tough. of course you'd search life for something meaningful, for goodness in people, and use drinking as a crutch.
what are you afraid of becoming, ot? |
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no
because i have self contronl
teal hair don't care |
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I'm never going to drink alcohol in my life, so I'm not worried. |
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MS06Join Date: 2011-06-16
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I'm afraid of reading xxxHolic |
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My dad's an abusive alcoholic, my grandfather's an abusive alcoholic, my mom's an alcoholic, my whole family are pretty much alcoholics.
So yeah, the fear of it has definitely crossed my mind, but I like to think I have more self control than they did (probably not, though).
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I'm sure you can overcome it, Dapper. I think letting the anxiety get to you only makes it worse, and thinking of it in a more realistic, cynical light helps. For instance, if I ever have a drink, I'll only have like 1/4th a bottle so I don't have to worry about going too far and descending into the void. But then again, perhaps avoiding it altogether would help? My mind likes to insist to me that it's not trying to "explore" self-destructive tendencies. Hmmm. |
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AX94Join Date: 2011-08-09
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"I mean, I drink socially..." - Sterling Archer |
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To be 100 percent honest, i wish my parents where seperated. |
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Wouldn't you rather your parents sort out their differences instead? Or do you feel like it would give you enough freedom to strike out on your own? I can understand the desperation but I don't think that's a good enough reason for family bonds to be split down the middle. |
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ReplacedJoin Date: 2009-07-15
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stereotypes of being a 'holic
not the reality lol |
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"I'm sure you can overcome it, Dapper. I think letting the anxiety get to you only makes it worse, and thinking of it in a more realistic, cynical light helps. For instance, if I ever have a drink, I'll only have like 1/4th a bottle so I don't have to worry about going too far and descending into the void. But then again, perhaps avoiding it altogether would help? My mind likes to insist to me that it's not trying to "explore" self-destructive tendencies. Hmmm."
Addiction has been shown to be a genetic factor, and that's what scares me. I have a really addictive family (not just to alcohol, but to drugs too). Like you said, avoiding it altogether is a perfect option for avoiding addiction, and that's something I plan on trying as hard as I can to stick to.
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@fourth I feel like, if my father wasnt in my life i would have a lot more freedom. |
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my parents are alcoholics but i've never really worried about becoming one myself considering the only alcohol i like barely even has alcohol in it
god damnit ross |
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"To be 100 percent honest, i wish my parents where seperated."
It sucks, man.
If your parents are together, they're both there to keep each other in check. My mom and dad were split my whole life, and him and my step-family were free to abuse me all they really wanted, because my mother couldn't really do a thing.
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Alot of my family members have had abused durgs at multiple points in their lives
This isn't 2007 |
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Yeahhh, although my family is good at moderating substance, so I'd really only ever consider having a sip at home. But yeah it's definitely not something I pursue all the time. |
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"Yeahhh, although my family is good at moderating substance, so I'd really only ever consider having a sip at home. But yeah it's definitely not something I pursue all the time."
So yeah, you should be a little bit less prone to addiction, but it's still a definite possibility.
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ZullwayJoin Date: 2013-10-21
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I'm addicted to vape ever since I stopped chewing |
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SlydexiaJoin Date: 2010-08-10
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i'm afraid of becoming the opposite, actually |
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"It sucks, man.
If your parents are together, they're both there to keep each other in check. My mom and dad were split my whole life, and him and my step-family were free to abuse me all they really wanted, because my mother couldn't really do a thing."
Erggg, people suck! Sorry about that, man. =( I feel it in myself sometimes but I never understood how people could be so harmful to their own kin. Or maybe I do understand but it's still dreadful.
I notice my parents keep each other in check, too, which was basically the foundation of their relationship together. |
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It's not that unusual where my family is from, so I would be seen as normal.
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SlydexiaJoin Date: 2010-08-10
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"i wish my parents where seperated"
i can't even think about this happening to me. |
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UelisanJoin Date: 2015-03-13
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My Parents are Separated.
My dad's an abusive alcoholic,
and my step mother's an abusive alcoholic.
Life is good... (sarcasm)
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"Erggg, people suck! Sorry about that, man. =( I feel it in myself sometimes but I never understood how people could be so harmful to their own kin. Or maybe I do understand but it's still dreadful.
I notice my parents keep each other in check, too, which was basically the foundation of their relationship together."
I'm pretty sure I know the reason why he did all of those things. He never really wanted to keep me, so that definitely contributed to everything. He also let himself get manipulated by my step-mother who hated my mother, and as a result, hated me.
Still doesn't justify what he did, but I can kinda explain why.
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My grandfather was an alcoholic...
...and a cold-war era helicopter pilot.
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