lionbaitaJoin Date: 2012-09-15
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My parents want me to stay with them even when they're old and I grow up so I can take care of them and I want to.
Where I come from. Parents always live with their kids.
So I don't get why it's an insult ? |
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well yes u are a lion ur case is different |
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lionbaitaJoin Date: 2012-09-15
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No i mean when I'm in human form too. |
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XecromiusJoin Date: 2016-04-21
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Kids think they are cool because they live by themselves kind of like "HEH, LOOK AT ME, I CAN LIVE BY MY OWN INDEPENDENTLY, LOOK AT U LIVING WITH UR PARENTS" |
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Locust_1Join Date: 2015-11-20
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Because they're 13. |
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WavyBankJoin Date: 2016-06-10
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I keel cesar |
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lionbaitaJoin Date: 2012-09-15
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Now who's cesar |
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CelestusJoin Date: 2011-08-15
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Are you Asian?
I can't even imagine living with my parents after university. I will try to leave home as early as possible. It gives me space, potential time for a relationship - I would find it hard having a relationship if my parents were always home. It's nice for you to think that though about your parents, it's just in my culture there is a real pressure to move on with life and leave the family home. |
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My Mom will kill me if I try and leave after I graduate.
The_Godliest, 3 day'd |
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lionbaitaJoin Date: 2012-09-15
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Yes I'm Asian.
It's common knowledge on c&g but if you didn't know good guess.
I don't get why your culture promotes leaving your parents alone ?
They cared for you and took care of you while you were young. There should be nothing more important to you than them and that's why you should take care of them is what i believe.
I understand your relationship point and yeah it makes sense. I just didn't think of it because I'm not really allowed to have relationships and will marry someone my parents choose xd |
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Lion, check your Skype! Or else I'll send a message to my snake! |
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lionbaitaJoin Date: 2012-09-15
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I didn't get any message from you..... |
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I sent you 5. One more from another account.. Ugh, sign out then sign in. |
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lionbaitaJoin Date: 2012-09-15
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Still no dude |
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CelestusJoin Date: 2011-08-15
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Well it basically stems from the relationship point. For me to have a relationship within my culture, it's basically neccessary that you no longer live with your parents after university. When I work, it will likely be in the City, therefore if I don't want a long commute it's basically a requirement for me to move. I will never leave my parents, and I will always look after them, but I won't live with them for that long. An advantage is that when my sister and I leave they can downgrade their house to a smaller one, in a nicer area and have a good amount of money from it.
Haha, and yeah I know your situation. My girlfriend and I had to break up because she was religious and Asian, both of which I am not. Funny how racism seems to be aimed at white people being the perpertrators, I've never been racist yet have certainly been discriminated against in a country that I am a majority. I feel sorry for you, and the situation of arranged marriage, though you will probably never agree with that - most people are happy that they will be getting an arranged marriage. |
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WavyBankJoin Date: 2016-06-10
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'mmy mom doesnt care as long as im successful in life
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BubsvJoin Date: 2015-12-05
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the whole multiple generations living in the same home, and having the young always look after and care for their elders is pretty common in most asian cultures
in western culture, however, independence is a sign of success, and it's all about success and making it big in places like america |
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CelestusJoin Date: 2011-08-15
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Bubsv basically sums it up. In organic societies, with developed economices, the family unit becomes nuclear, in other words - husband, wife and 2 children - the extended family becomes less important.
In older societies - ones from less economically developed countries, the family unit tends to be an extended kin. The family has much greater influence and is responsible in helping each other a lot more. Parents tend to have a lot more influence, and there are religious norms to enforce this, i.e. the Quran and verses about respecting parents. |
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SyIasJoin Date: 2008-08-06
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actually its common in a lot of cultures.. mostly non anglo. Its very popular in mexico, for instance
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lionbaitaJoin Date: 2012-09-15
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Yeah the thing you mentioned about asian families is nearly spot-on. Yes the quran does have verses about importance of parents.
Though usually no more than 3 generations remain in a house.
I understand different cultures have different customs and I understand your reasons but still living with yout parents shouldn't be an insult if you did it to take care of them.
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aimperkzJoin Date: 2015-04-02
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heres how americans usually do it:
born
go to school until highschool
get a job usually
move out
OPTIONAL:
go to college if can afford
move into college dorm or place near college
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as parents get older, kids try to take care of them
if they arent able to they go to nursing homes that care for them |
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CelestusJoin Date: 2011-08-15
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'I understand different cultures have different customs and I understand your reasons but still living with yout parents shouldn't be an insult if you did it to take care of them.'
Are you from the UK?
Over here it will hardly be an insult anytime soon, most people are going to be forced to live with their parents. We have a housing crisis, where most people of our generation will actually NEVER own a house (paid off the mortgage). I mean I am hoping I will be able to, but I would not insult anyone who can't, the majority won't. |
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DieSoftJoin Date: 2009-08-03
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My family have never really been close so it's more like if I'm just a random guy living with them and helping out in general. Not that close family thing. It's a temporary solution to me having a place in another city, potentially.
:^) |
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