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We're twelve years old, and we're both in 7th grade together and we have four classes with each other. We've been friends for two or three years, and it surprised me when I found out how overprotective his parents are:
-He's not allowed to play games with other people (ie Minecraft Servers, Multiplayer Simcity, Roblox, etc) unless it's something restricted. Like for Minecraft, it would be LAN. Simcity would be a private Multiplayer region, and Roblox would be a game place that only certain people can visit.
-His parents don't let him watch certain PG-13 movies and he's almost thirteen. Like what the heck.
-His parents have cameras all over the house, which makes sense because they can afford it, BUT, if he's out of bed past his bedtime then they will speak through the camera and tell him to go sleep.
-He has a bedtime. This is the only "overprotectiveness" (if that was a word) our parents share.
-His parents make him eat vegetables :3
-His parents can afford a really nice smart phone for him, but he has none. Instead they gave him a tablet, which is nice, but what's the point to a tablet if you can't call people? I have a regular phone, with no internet, and at least I get to call people. But he can't, so the only communication I have with him is e-mail.
-Many many more.
What should I do? I really want him to step out into the real world, but he's being so sheltered that he can't really do anything until he's old enough to move out. And that's bad because when he's living by himself, he won't have very good social skills, he won't understand some things like why people make friendships on the computer instead of real life, etc etc etc.
Thanks for any help. I want him to be in the real world, not the dystopian one :c |
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CrawflyJoin Date: 2013-05-06
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tldr but beat up his parents |
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EDIT:
*Unless it has a restriction, not if it's restricted. |
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@craw
I'm not doing that you know. I want his parents to trust me -.-* |
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jonny1367Join Date: 2010-07-04
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>-His parents don't let him watch certain PG-13 movies and he's almost thirteen. Like what the heck.
Well, he's not 13
Understandable
>-His parents make him eat vegetables :3
It's because they're good for you fatty, try it
>-His parents can afford a really nice smart phone for him, but he has none. Instead they gave him a tablet, which is nice, but what's the point to a tablet if you can't call people? I have a regular phone, with no internet, and at least I get to call people. But he can't, so the only communication I have with him is e-mail.
Why do you need to call people
Isn't email enough
He's only 13
Odds are he won't be in a scenario where he needs to immediately call somebody and has no access to a phone
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See if he can ask his parents to loosen up, He's 12, He has responsibility. He's not a 5 year old anymore. My mom did the same when I was 5. |
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KotawlJoin Date: 2013-06-22
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are his parents asian |
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okaustinJoin Date: 2010-12-05
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many of those things aren't being overprotective?
vegetables being overprotective? really? |
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@kotawl
No; his mom is Argentine and his dad is American.
@johnny
The vegetables part was a joke... =| |
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injuryJoin Date: 2009-11-07
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he's a beta male and he's going to die alone
end of story |
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Tell your friend to talk to his parents about the online stuff. There are some Minecraft servers that ban you when you cuss, talk inappropriate, etc. And like everyone knows, ROBLOX has strict rules about inappropriate stuff as well. I've never played simcity, so I don't know what kind of rules that has. That's all I can think of. |
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ot can't handle long paragraphs, and you do it everywhere! |
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XC6Alt35Join Date: 2013-08-08
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the camera thing sounds pretty creepy. |
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Being restrictive is good. Unless too restrictive.
Roblox can hurt people AKA this forum can hurt people by rude comments.
I'm 13 im not allowed to watch PG-13. Notice its Parental Guidance and 13+
Its his family's business also. Not yours, even if you are his best friend. |
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Show them how good the online community is. Plus that bedroom thing..... |
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Tell him to find a gun and shoot his parents up |
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XC6Alt35Join Date: 2013-08-08
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But in all seriousness, your friend can't do anything without jeopardising the relationship between said friend and their parents. It's best to let him be sheltered and when he turns 18, he can sort out his issues |
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rockybowJoin Date: 2008-01-15
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"We're twelve years old"
"He's not allowed to play games with other people"
I guess that's okay. I mean lan and single player isn't bad. Couch and splitscreen multiplayer was cool anyway.
"His parents don't let him watch certain PG-13 movies and he's almost thirteen. Like what the heck."
It's not horrendous to follow the ratings. They are there for a reason.
"if he's out of bed past his bedtime then they will speak through the camera and tell him to go sleep."
He needs sleep
"He has a bedtime."
He's 12, he should have a bed time.
"His parents make him eat vegetables"
Good for them. I admire them for that.
"His parents can afford a really nice smart phone for him, but he has none."
No 12 year old needs a smart phone.
Although I have met very sheltered people who have turned out to have some terrible social skills. I think you are over thinking a lot of this. Especially at your age. If they are still doing half of these things at 16, then there might be an issue.
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Being restrictive is good. Unless too restrictive.
Roblox can hurt people AKA this forum can hurt people by rude comments.
I'm 13 im not allowed to watch PG-13. Notice its Parental Guidance and 13+
Its his family's business also. Not yours, even if you are his best friend.
Also I just got a phone, only because I was going to Hungary. Then my parents took it away. No one under 13 should have a phone unless parents are split and the child would like to text the other. |
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XC6Alt35Join Date: 2013-08-08
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"It's not horrendous to follow the ratings. They are there for a reason."
They're a massive generalisation and not to be taken literally but under the guard of the guardians and may not apply to the OP's friend.
"He needs sleep"
And you think constantly being told to sleep will help him sleep? That's not how sleep works, sunshine
"Good for them. I admire them for that."
Fair point, but encouragement could be used instead of forcing
"No 12 year old needs a smart phone."
Fair point, but no one needs a smart phone. Needs =/= everything.
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XC6Alt35Join Date: 2013-08-08
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One way you can help him is invite him to yours so he can have more freedom for some parts of his life. |
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@Everyone-who-comments-about-the-vegetables
It was a joke
@Economics
I'm male |
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Ok, Your friend is is definitely upset.
Screw him. That will show dem parents. |
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