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it's only if you let it be
your goals should be determined by and FOR yourself, status and wealth don't really amount to much posthumously anyway
from personal experience and observation of others i've known, i can say that having a goal that puts you at competition with other people is likely going to end up with you getting hurt emotionally at best. anger, sadness, self-pity, anxiety... the list goes on.
set goals that encourage you. if your goals are bringing you down then it's time to change focus.
and on that note, I sincerely wish you all the best of luck in your future endeavors!
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copaceticJoin Date: 2011-11-02
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Agreed |
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the cookie monster will see you now, sir.
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seriously though
i REALLY want to emphasize not setting competitive goals
think of goals as self-improvement, not as a way to prove something
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aka make excuses for being bad XD |
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"think of goals as self-improvement, not as a way to prove something"
"make excuses for being bad XD"
To each their own. Since the overwhelming majority of people rely on each other for their own wellbeing, there's very little to prove past being able to say "hey im cool".
And the "cool" factor is just a measure of how much you're going to lose when things don't go your way.
Nothing wrong with focusing on trying to be the best, but understand the long-term consequences of that path.
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The illusion of power only lasts so long. Do you really want other people you don't know well to be in control of your emotions?
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And if you don't mind others being in control of your emotions, what about the decisions you make? What about your entire career?
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Hahahahhaha inferior thread. |
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OP is having mental breakdown? trying to figure out what in the world motivated this thread |
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i enjoy debates about this kind of stuff
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"ROBLOX is a game
You play to win"
yeah that's true, but its a game
its ok to have fun. if there's a sport you like then there's no problem doing that
im just trying to say you shouldnt base your entire life on trying to win something if you're not having fun doing it :-)
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how about not hosting a sermon for your personal ideologies on a kid's lego site |
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i agree with op. you're a good man.
being the master of yourself and ultimately being free, and teaching others to think for themselves and be free, and to love one another, is the greatest thing one can do. |
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"i can say that having a goal that puts you at competition with other people is likely going to end up with you getting hurt emotionally at best"
i disagree heavily.
competition isn't necessarily about being a sole winner in the real world - competition is a fight against the masses. from getting into competitive schools, to getting jobs, etc, how can you suggest that desiring these goals will result in emotional pain? nearly every life function is a competition against others - literally having enough money to get by is a competition for resources.
i can set goals that can encourage me to live my life happier, sure - but without one of my goals being "making enough money to pay off rent this month" or "get good grades so that i can be financially independent" your entire life will basically come crashing down. from the education system being based on curves to the work system constantly evaluating your performance, these aren't things you can just blissfully ignore.
you're right, you shouldn't base your life on being the best - especially if you don't have the means to. but being a functional member of this society by conventional means requires one to set goals that are, in many ways, competitions against others. it's an idealistic perspective to derive one's own purpose separate from the values of wealth, but that's not a reasonable position to hold if you intend to create a family and have a steady life.
your statement holds true for short-term self improvement, i guess, but if you're in a state of your life where you're looking to self improve, but in many ways self-improvement is a means for many people to become more competitive, which on its own can derive happiness.
but that's me speaking - from the perspective of a student at a top university, so maybe i'm biased. to each their own, though.
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## but if you're in a state of your life where you're looking to self improve, go for it - realize that in many ways self-improvement is a means for many people to become more competitive, which on its own can derive happiness. sorry typos. its late sh. |
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